Quiet Love: The Love of Solemnity
Yesterday, I attended my boyfriend’s elder sister’s wedding. It was a garden wedding and though the weather threatened to rain anytime, it gave the precious gift of time for the wedding to finish and for quests to assemble in the reception hall nearby. It was my first time to attend a wedding and I didn’t expect it to be at a boyfriend’s family matrimonial gathering.
As expected, with my boyfriend being the younger sibling, the question asked of me a couple of time through the event was “When will your turn be next?” I just smiled and shook my head. Everybody who knows us knows I am not ready to get hitched. We both are. Time will only tell if we are bonded for life. Looking at him now though, I am content as to where we are. I do wish it will last and that our bond will strengthen.
I do wish that despite the flaws we have, we will never forget that it is our flaws that made us harmonious. I remember an expert in a graphic novel titled “After Eden” by Arnold Arre. The lovers, having a date in a carnival agreed to have some fun at a fortune teller’s tent. The fortune teller, smitten by the young couple’s personas, told about the story behind ‘clasped hands’.
Fortune Teller
“Look… the fingers represent our good sides and the gaps between our shortcomings. Now watch this. We bump our fingers together-our good sides- and what happens? There’s tension! Conflicts! Painful too.
But… if we allow the other person to fill in the gaps… to fill in our shortcomings, we create harmony. This is where the fun begins! A link is made. An unbreakable union. Hence. The Clasping of Hands.
Neat concept huh? ^^
I think that the concept applies very much to my boyfriend’s older sister and husband? Why? Well, they tend to be quite of the special kind of people, born with some shortcomings that us, born normal, may not tend to live without.
The couple wed yesterday are both deaf. They communicate through sign language, body movements, eyes and lip reading. I was at first perplexed with the idea as how they would start their life together and communicate with other people. My mind was placed at ease upon observing the guests yesterday. There was quite a segmentation from those who can hear and those who can’t. Nevertheless, the air was filled with happiness and joy for the happy couple. And nobody seemed to be completely uncomfortable in each other’s presence. Family and friends are ready to assist, to mingle, to share joy. They were there seeing the growth of the newlyweds, witnessing how each dealt with their disability all through their lives and how at last, each found a partner to clasp hands with through eternity.
I find it wonderful. The newlywed may not hear well but they seem to hear each other very well. They complement each other very much. Maybe, as the cliché saying would go, “They complete each other.”
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Euri
That’s true. I do agree with the idea that people’s imperfections are what makes the relationship more interesting. And what’s even more great there is that despite it, they still love each other. ^^;
Jun 21st, 2008
Jasmine
I agree Euri. Somehow, I envy those couple. I just hope I end up truly in-love like them forever.
Jul 5th, 2008
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