I spent the day yesterday with Jenny and Paolo at the Ayala Malls for a time to bond, chat, do some photo shots and fill ourselves up with food. The day’s itinerary was for me and Jenny to discuss some make-up essential for the coming July event, buy make-up tools, chat with Paolo and try a new resto.
But majority of the day was spent with us talking and talking and talking and talking…
What else can you expect from two talkative individuals such as me and Jenny. Fortunately, Paolo is a very good gentleman to take everything like a sponge and offer tidbits and advises on issues we raise.
With me and Jenny recently struggling with heart issues, it couldn’t be helped for the discussion to revolve around relationships. We were very happy to have Paolo with us for he didn’t hide anything from us regarding how male minds work and how men perceive things differently from women.
Much as I want to release detailed historical on what brought about the discussion, I’d rather not as it will delve in too much within personal lives and might raise some issues when seen publicly by the ‘wrong’ people.
I could only give information on tidbits we learned on how relationships ‘should’ have been and how male minds work.
Not all information here is applicable to everyone. This is based on what me and Jenny are experiencing at the moment and I hope these knowledge will be helpful to many. :)
* Men will always hold on to their male pride and ego. It’s not only a question on how society dictates it but they were made that way. To conquer that part of them will be hard but there are ways to get around them.
* Women in a sense ‘lose’ more for every broken relationship. In a relationship, every step women take is a struggle to reach the end, to reach a commitment, and in doing so, their emotional investments take a toll and breaks down when being dumped (especially harshly) by their partner. So to females, we must make it known to our male friends, family and relatives just what it entails for us to be in a serious relationship. Many men have no idea about this.
* Commitments means to sacrifice something special to you. This is where ‘efforts’ comes in. Just because one can do things for you means that is effort enough to stay within a relationship. What if that perceived ‘effort’ was easy on your partner’s end? An effort should have been something that made him sweat and act a bit out of him comfort zone for him to show his sincerity.
* Women should strictly take the role to be CHASED. Men are the hunters, They want to HUNT. Let them. Make things hard for them. Let them sweat, bleed and sacrifice a bit. It is only at that time you will know they are sincere or if they are just looking for a pastime or a plaything for short term.
* Women are emotionally stronger than men. Have you ever wondered why more males die from heart attacks? It is because they keep everything into themselves. Women know how to release through years and talking with close friends.
Here are a bit of info I learned from the men’s side.
* Men, because of their PRIDE and EGO, will most often than not, not tell the real cause of their actions. Pffft.
In many scenarios, they will lie to escape confrontations, especially if they know they will do the hurting.
MY COMMENT TO THE LATTER STATEMENT: These are NOT ‘Men’. These are ‘Boys’.
* Men also have their bonding moments and these moments are coursed through drinking. With the aid of alcohol, they gather enough courage to tell their friends their real emotions. Unfortunately, this does not apply to ALL men as most will still keep most to themselves.
* Men are seriously physical in nature. A girl’s appearance is the first trigger for admiration. Women goes otherwise.
And more information on relationships:
* When a girl gets into a relationship fast, she could easily get out of it.
* An aggressive woman, who is making the moves on someone can come out suspicious. It could be she is just looking for a past-time.
As I can see it, there is no way to make a commitment if both sides wouldn’t make it known how to deal with each other. Bottom-line, COMMUNICATION.
Unfortunately, if one has too much pride to say anything or the other is just taking in whatever he or she gets, that is where the problem lies.
