Treasure

I think it is my being an OC (obsessive and compulsive) individual that I was able to unearth this printed inspirational letter from multitudes of unorganized books, folders, files and other paper debris from our bookshelf. If my memory serves me right, this came from a close friend back in high school during our recollection days in Don Bosco Retreat House in Batangas. I did not understand the concept back then but I held on to the words of wisdom printed on the page even if I was hesitant to believe that ‘love’ may happen to me.

Now that I am in a fairly new relationship (and my first one at that), I guess it is just not coincidence that I found this again. Truth be told, I am a baby in these things and I had to rely and trust my boyfriend on how things go in a relationship since he had some experience before. Yes, I am sometimes giddy with happiness but I honestly am scared sometimes. I just had to rely a lot on my instinct to do what I think is right.

But surely, somehow, I sense the wisdom and the reality of the words, and I am getting a bit more of understanding for ‘love’ as what it truly brings.

I am not religious and yes, I am quite cynical. Yet, I don’t think it’s bad to see the world positively once in a while. I get it now, where some happiness can come from. I do hope so it continues.

I hope with this letter, others would also benefit from it.

Understanding love

Somebody once told me that “Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong… It is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there… you’ll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a ‘right person’ for you… and don’t rush things… coz somewhere somehow GOD is preparing sombody for you.” You can never be perfect… the person you love can never be perfect… but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers, and your love can be perfect through the both of you.

But no relationship is complete without God… that’s why we have marriage. It’s a bond that not only exists between you and your loved one… but also with God. Our relationship fail not because s/he’s not the right person… it’s because we expected too much and we decided on our own… let God do the work… you may call it waiting time… but while you are waiting… pray. Let God guide you always. He knows better. No, he knows best. Love is not what you think it is. Sometimes we mistakenly feel that our first relationship will be the last. Because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of true love. Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life. Others are saying love is immortal and can never be defined.

When we think we’re in love the first we thing we almost wanted the whole world to know is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away from us. We say this phrase “You are the most wonderful gift from God I have ever received…” After a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say “You are the biggest mistake I’ve ever made for my entire life!!!” Now, how do you say and spell the world L-O-V-E? Are you really deeply into it.?

Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right into our ears. Most of the time, these love promises like “Forever, till death do us part, etc.” would end up. “Never” and “We should part ways, I’m no longer happy with you! My love for you is DEAD!!!”. Many times we thought after we committed to someone and your trust to one another freezes down to zero degrees “S/he ain’t the right one. I should probably wait for the right one to come”. But the big question anyone could not answer is “Is s/he the right one?” and “When is the right time?” That made us stick to whom we are with. Will you always be waiting for the right person to come and the right time to commit. A big YES is the answer.

Don’t be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you are already into it. Try to find time to really understand your feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship. You’re right, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there’s a compatible partnership that goes along with it. If you already knew that you’re too big to fit into a small sized T-shirt, don’t give it a try. You’ll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made. If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don’t go deeper into it. You’ll just suffer the consequences and live like hell for the rest of your life. It’s really hard to say goodbye but you can’t make it better by just pretending.

Take the chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention. Then you will find that you have the right decision and you made it all by yourself.

More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical manner for some reason. We call it love when we can’t leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, it’s just pity. We call it love when we’re too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We misunderstood, it’s just we’re too much dependent on them. We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us imagined that if they leave no one would accept us and our past. We are mistaken, it’s just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that Love isn’t something you can buy nor beg. It is real and existing. You can’t touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can’t find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come. It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don’t forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.

You’ve understand the real meaning of Love when you find yourself in Love with God, with yourself and with other around.